R.E.S.P.E.C.T

 10 ways to Expect and Get Respect

1. Respect your child. Let your child express their opinions, tastes, and values if they do so respectfully.

2. Expect Respect. Call it what it is use the words respect, disrespect, polite and rude so children know what they are and can live the expectation. 

3. Explain the policy on respect to your children. If this is new to them do so when you are not heated, and do so calmly.

4. Tune your ears to respect and disrespect. If you don't recognize it how will they?

5. Nip disrespectful behavior in the bud. Respond immediately.

6. Use a special tone of voice to respond to disrespectful behavior. This communicates that it is serious.

7. Use time outs for disrespect if necessary. (This may not always be age appropriate but there are other variations of "time out" for older kids.)

8. Be firm but keep your cool. Losing your cool only shows disrespect. Practice what you are teaching.

9. Combine zero tolerance with a long term view. Don't let disrespect slip by.

10. If disrespect is chronic and these don't work you may want to seek professional help. 

(Doherty, 2013)

As much as we want our children to respect us we must also respect them and teach with respect for them and their feelings. Here is a great example of how to do that.  Watch for how he shows respect to his son. Even when his son doesn't hold up his end of the deal he is calm, respectful and holds his son accountable in the way they agreed. This is true respect.


When we treat our children with respect and hold them accountable they will learn respect, accountability, and life skills. Have age appropriate expectations. Even toddlers can be taught to not interrupt, be kind, and listen. Give respect and get respect. 




Reference:

https://www2.cortland.edu/dotAsset/fa7bc4b5-bbad-4e13-809f-c404fa13560e.pdf

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